July 27, 2016
Dear Family and Friends,
It is with great sadness I break this news to you – my cancer journey has opened a new chapter. I was diagnosed with breast cancer on Monday. Somehow I have become one of the two cancer people.
The lump was found through a routine breast cancer mammogram. I’m part of the Ontario Breast Cancer screening program, so I get a mammogram every other summer. The test was clear two years ago. Once the mass was seen on the mammogram, they did a biopsy and ultrasound to confirm diagnosis. A nearby lymph node was also tested and showed cancerous cells.
Fortunately the day after the diagnosis I got in to see the first expert in what is going to be a long chain of breast treatment specialists. Peter and I met with a surgical oncologist and some of his team yesterday. In 4-5 weeks I will have day surgery to remove the lump and infected lymph nodes. When that heals I will probably have radiation. Because of my delicate kidney situation (from cancer #1), as well as the kind of breast cancer it is (determined from tests after the surgery) it is not clear yet whether or what kind of chemo I will have. That’s the short version, so far, of what lies ahead medically.
How do I feel? A hundred things at once: Like I’ve been run over by a truck. Grateful to have quick access to good medical care that is paid for. Horrified by my situation. Mortified that Peter’s life is as swamped by this as mine is. Sad that this is the life that I now have. Amazed at the resilience that rises up to face the new beast. Overwhelmed by all the new information I have to absorb. Curious about the new part of the medical system I’m entering. Intrigued about how this will deepen my cancer art. Grateful for all the love and support that is already coming my way.
I am reviving the previous Cancer Update list that I used last year for cancer #1 to keep you up to date on my situation. I’m operating on the premise that I’d want to know if it was you. I’ve added some new people to this list. If you don’t want to be on this list, for whatever reason, please let me know and I’ll take you off. There are many of you on the list. Your loving responses mean so much to Peter and I – they keep us afloat. It is an intense time as we find our way through this – I am not able to answer all your emails. For now please do not send me breast cancer information of any flavour. I know that there is a lot of it out there and I need to slowly find my way through. Feel free to share this information with anyone who knows me. At this point I’m keeping it off Face Book.
You know by now how I ‘do cancer’. My way is try and speak the truth of my experience – I hope without overwhelming my listeners. I try and tell my story through my writing and art. That is how I stay alive with what is now my life. It is also the life of many other people – you may be one of them or you may love someone in this situation. I view this as a cultural phenomena as well as a personal journey.
Fortunately the timing of my upcoming treatment means that I still get to go to Miami next week for Peter’s family reunion – lots of people I love there and I hope to snorkel off the Florida keys while we are there. Later in August Peter and I are going to a cottage in Northern Ontario, near Cobalt, a geography we love deeply. We’ll be able to canoe and swim in that spare and healing landscape.